We are asked very often, why are we adopting? What led us down this road? I will start from the very beginning.
We met when we were 13 years old! We attended church together, and literally grew up together! We got married in 2003 and in 2008 we were blessed with amazing rambunctious twin boys! In May 2010 we started talking about growing our family more. This is where our adoption story started.
I would often look at my amazing boys and I cherished their sweet bond that they had even at the age of two. I would look at them and wonder if twins ever got separated in adoption. This led me to calling different adoption agencies in our area. I was just so curious how common it was that a twin situation would come through an agency. I spoke that day with a great case worker from Bethany Christian Services who answered so many questions. She offered to send out an information packet and invited us to a informational meeting. We received the informational packet and looked it over. I will be honest though, it was quickly dismissed. We considered adoption very briefly but the list of reasons why it wasn't "right for us" began to develop. We told ourselves... it just doesn't make sense, we can have our own biologic children, we are not meant to adopt, and of course...it costs so much.
Well.... little did we know that God had started to work on our hearts. As we studied Gods word that spring and summer it seemed like everything we studied pointed to adoption. We would listen to a radio program, and it would point to adoption. Adoption... the word taunted our minds. We would discuss to together. We would think and pray about it alone. We both put it off. This wasn't for us. Or so we thought!
In September of 2010 we received a mailer from Bethany Christian Services that said they would be having an informational meeting at a church in our local community. We decided, what could it hurt? We decided to go. We attended the meeting in October. We walked out of the meeting and sat down in the car, we looked at each other, and we both knew our hearts had both changed completely. There was nothing drastic said or done at the meeting. I think it was really just a simple thing that God led us to, to allow us to open our hearts up to his will for us, not our plans for us.
When we drove home that night I remember Adam saying, "ok, I really would like to adopt, but it just costs so much. I don't think we can do it."
I knew he was right. In July of that year I had given into the call to stop working and be a full time stay at home mom. While I loved being a homemaker... we both missed the additional income. In the auto body repair world, summer months are often slow, as that summer had been. Things were tight already. There was not "extra" for an adoption.
However, after that meeting in October, we both agreed that we would continue to pray about it. In December Adam came home on his birthday informed me that there had been some changes at work that day. In short, in one days time, he found out that his salary would DOUBLE! This was a HUGE answer to prayer. We praised God so loudly that day... forget it... that month!
Well, while one would think this would be our "sign" to go ahead with adoption, we are a little more hard headed. We continued with the excuses, in fact, the list grew...
This continued until March and April of 2011. God did not give up though. He really taunted our heads and our hearts. He flooded us with adoption. It was everywhere...seriously...everywhere. I even remember one day, the boys were watching a tv show I was in the kitchen behind them. This show had a word of the day everyday. On this particular day the word was Adopt. I stopped dead in my tracks. I had finished praying about adoption not one hour before. I am telling you it was everywhere. However, I did not want to keep nagging my husband about it. Little did I know, I didn't have to! God was doing it for me!
I don't remember the exact day but it was a day in April when adoption came up in discussion again. We decided we would at least start the application process. I made the phone call.
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